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Summer is icumen in, and the Poly Monday Chillout lives

herekitty — Sun, 01 Jun 2008 20:12:45 GMT

Far as I know, here's the schedule for June.

It's the Poly Monday Chillout!

What: A chance to chat, hang out, be yourself among lively company

Who: The poly, the poly curious, the poly friendly and the just plain friendly. All ages welcome (except as noted)

When: Mondays from 6:30 p.m. to -9-ish (except as noted)

June 2 - Opposable Thumb Gallery & Cafe, 3312 SE Belmont St., 503-235-0146

June 9 - Java Nation, 4130 SW 117th Ave., Beaverton (near the MAX station), 503-520-8759

June16 - Poly discussion group. 7-9 p.m. Currently happening in two places, take your pick. Not sure if either is a child-proof location; both are held at homes on the east side. 1) E-mail Brian for location, pcdg@brianlbloom.com. 2) Call Laury for location, 503-285-4848.

June 23 - Chance of Rain Cafe, 1522 SE 32nd Ave. (just off Hawthorne behind Rock Soft Futon), 503-235-8022

June Bonus! Fifth Monday! Any candidates for a venue where this might take place?

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want to talk about polyamory on the radio?

nico — Sun, 01 Jun 2008 21:38:48 GMT

i am portland radio host and also someone checking out polyamory on a personal level. i would like to do a radio piece on the topic and am looking for people to talk about it with me on the air. write me if you are interested -- or know someone who might be a good resource on the topic!
thanks so much.

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New to Tribe.. Looking to meet new people near me.

Steve — Sat, 31 May 2008 23:30:13 GMT

I havent had alot of good luck finding any poly girls lately. Maybe this site will help me with that? Anyone have any success stories about this site that might give me a little faith in it.

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Tangled up in You and You and You…

Enrika — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 00:23:07 GMT

Did anyone read this article in this month's Portland Monthly Magazine?

http://www.portlandmonthlymag.com/this_issue/

"If you think swinging went out with the bell-bottoms and keg parties, you’re right. The buzzword for today’s lotsa-lovin’ lifestyle is “polyamory”—Latin for “My wife thinks you’re cute”—and Portlanders are getting in on the action."

If so, how was it? (I can't find a copy of the article online. If you have a link to such, please post it.)

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Poly meetups in late May?

lunasmiles — Tue, 06 May 2008 02:42:31 GMT

Mike and I will be coming to Portland for Darklady's Masturbatathon on the 31st, and we're going to take a little mini-vacation and come down on Friday the 30th just to hang out and socialize. So - anyone who'd like to meet up or have suggestions on fun sexy things to do in Portland on the 30th - let me know! We're sooooo looking forward to it!

Also - does anyone have suggestions on Sauvie Island nude beach for some afternoon relaxation?

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I'm in the mood for pancakes!

katemac — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 21:24:16 GMT

Simply because they are tasty!

Original Hotcake House
1002 SE Powell Blvd.

8:30am

Sunday, April 20, 2008

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Movie date today? Finally going to see Atonement at Academy - Wanna go?

Donna — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 19:09:48 GMT

Going to see atonement at 6:45 today. Can meet for coffee/tea before if interested.

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Phoenix Moon Community Book Store

marylederbailey — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 21:50:07 GMT

Ok everyone, here is the deal....Phoenix Moon
> Community Book store will open
> in Salem, Oregon on 09/20/08. I am currently seeking
> funds and an open
> retail space. Grants are awesome and so are
> Donations. I am seeking
> investors who are wanting to see this up off the
> ground and succeed ( AND IT
> WILL). Josh and Liv are designing the LOGO and Web
> Page. I have the whole
> sellers lined up and looking for more and I am super excited. So the
> Genre of the Phoenix Moon is
> Religion and Ethnic Tolerance: Pagan, Christian,
> Hinduism, Buddism etc all
> welcome. Will have Self help Books and a section for
> pure fiction. Selling
> Candles and Insense, Jewelry, CD's etc.. will have a
> space in the store for
> readings, class sessions. I am wanting input and
> ideas. There will be free
> Wi fi for those customers who are purchasing. It is
> going to be Awesome...
> There hasn't been this kind of Store in Salem since
> Rosebud and Fish. There
> is a giant need for this in every community and this
> community is in dire
> straights.
>
> Blessed Be
>
> Marybeth Bailey

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Pagan and poly therapist?

Thuri — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 19:12:57 GMT

Hi all,

I was just wondering if anyone knows of (or is) a Pagan and poly (or at least clued-in, and friendly) therapist?

I'd sure appreciate any referrals given.

thanks in advance,
Thuri

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If any of you are interested in anime

Taylor — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 15:05:51 GMT

there's a new tribe: http://tribes.tribe.net/pdxanime

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What to do in PDX

just4fun6464 — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 05:51:19 GMT

Some Poly folks from the East Coast are thinking about joining us in this fabulus city. They want to know about intentional communities/shared poly housing. I also need to come up with cool, fun, interesting things to highlight the best parts of Portland. My knowledge base is limited as we live in the boonies, have young kids and just don't get out much right now.

Any and all information welcome. Many thanks

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March 10th

just4fun6464 — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 04:59:46 GMT

Meetup, where will it be?

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Local Resource for Poly Legal/Contracts

S1m0n — Mon, 25 Feb 2008 16:15:48 GMT

Just looking for poly-centric resource for preparing legal contracts, wills/probate, co-habitation living arrangements, asset division and equity splits, etc. Any and all leads appreciated. Thanks!

s1m0n

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Immersion

S1m0n — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 06:05:57 GMT

Thoughts on Immersion

im·mer·sion [i-mur-zhuhn, -shuhn]. Noun.

1. The condition of being placed underwater for a length of time.
2. A state of being deeply involved; absorbtion.

I think poly worked out for me because I went swimming in the deep end of the pool. I didn't wade in; I jumped in. I didn't test the water with the tip of a toe. I just committed. I lived with my friends for the first month of polyness. Within that space, I was able to experience the full range of popular culture crap - emotional insecurity, jealousy, guilt, anxiety, wrenching and nagging thoughts in the back of my brain about what it all means - all at once, and it worked. It filled my lungs. I sank. And to survive, I learned to swim.

Coming out of that experience I walked away with some key ideas on poly.

One - Reality. The relationship between my primary and her husband was solid. I wasn't going to disrupt it. It was all too real, tangible, and I had to deal and see it for what it was. It wasn't going to change.

Two - Selflessness. encouraging happiness between the two of them benefitted everybody, including me, and in doing so, overcame selfish tendencies to horde and hog affections.

Three - Abundance. Wow, abundance - love, feelings, affection, expressions... are abundant. Seems so obvious yet so difficult to really come to grips with.

Immersion, I think, allowed me to confront what was real, learn how to give up to get more, and how meaningless scarcity is to feelings. Anyone new to poly, I think, should do this. I don't think you can develop a strong appreciation for these things otherwise. Give in: leap, jump, splash, sink. Probably tough to do. Maybe it takes the right place, right time kinda thing. Yet, when you open your eyes and discover life below the waterline, it's like Morpheus just handed you the red pill. You give up the conventional and understandable, the habits you developed by standing on land, and you find difference in just being there, and there's nothing else you can do about it.

Still swimming these days; I haven't desired to get out of the pool. Every day is a new chance to sink a little more, to get a little deeper in my understanding of it, to explore and try new things, to see life in a totally new way. I read-up on poly, listen to poly podcasts, talk to poly people... I tell my lover that I'm sixteen, learning about relationships all over again, and redefining everything I do and feel. And I wake up every day wondering what else I can do to immerse myself and learn more. So far, it's been a fantastic voyage of self-discovery, one only made possible - I think - by letting everything go and drifting for a while to see how far I could sink, and, how long I could swim.

s1m0n

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HI from Seattle!

lunasmiles — Sat, 16 Feb 2008 19:19:29 GMT

Hi everyone! I"m new to this tribe, but I see some familiar names, so I hope it's OK for me to cross post this - hope you don't mind.........

My husband and I are planning to attend the Erotic Ball in Portland Feb 23rd, then while he has an overnight date on Sunday, I'll be on my own from Sunday afternoon until Monday afternoon when we head back to Seattle together.

Do you have any suggestions for what's good to do on a Sunday/Monday? Other than being lazy at the hotel (I'll have a separate room) and browsing Powell's, I don't have a lot of ideas.

Portland's a nice city and I'm sure I'll find interesting things poking around on my own, but it's always more fun to have company! So....anyone want to join me? Um........The hotel has a pool and hot tub...... ;~D

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Chill reminder

mr_scoot — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 06:22:19 GMT

Title: Chill-Out

Date: Monday January 28, 2008
Time: 6:30 pm - 9:00 pm
Location: Chance of Rain
Street: 1522 SE 32nd
City State Zip: Portland, OR
Notes: What is a chill out: a time and a place to hang out, chill out, have a bite, start a conversation or join one already in progress.

Time: 6:30-9:00pm-ish

Why: Because you're poly, poly curious, poly friendly or just plain friendly.

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IM NEW

Jordan — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 21:29:43 GMT

Hey i just wanted to say hello to everyone. I am a single bi male looking for a bi girl for a relationship or a couple for fun times and exciting Days.im laid back and relaxed and follow directions well. Hit me up if you want and say hello, i dont bite , well not hard anyway..

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Polyamory Circle

Polyamory — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 05:41:50 GMT

Or Just Poly Curious? we gather Monthly To discuss Topics such as open relationships, expanded families, intentional community, and polyamory. Meets Third Monday Everyone Welcome, call Poly for Location 503-285-4848

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Poly Monthly Dinners 2007 second Tuesday

polydomes — Mon, 17 Sep 2007 22:21:27 GMT

Poly Monthly Dinners 2007 second Tuesday
The poly dinners will be on the 2rd Tuesday this year

When: Tuesday 9 OCT 2007 7:00 PM
Tuesday 13 NOV 2007 7:00 PM
Tuesday 11 DEC 2007 7:00 PM
Where: Sivalaya Thai Restaurant
4806 SE Stark
Portland, OR
Price: around $10 per head

Veggy friendly, no smoking.

Busing it: #15 Belmont to Parkrose Sumner TC.
Get off at Belmont & 49th
Walk one block North

#20 Burnside-Stark to Gresham TC.
Get off at Burnside & 50th
Walk 0.3 mile south {not downhill}

Then we will wander over {8:30 PM }to meet up with the other polys for Balkin dancing and beer at It's a Beautiful Pizza 3342 SE Belmont St, Portland, 97214 - (503) 233-5444

I even remembered to have Jose save us the side room this time.

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Open Conversations about Open Relationships

Sweet_Bee_1948 — Fri, 26 Jan 2007 18:26:31 GMT

I'm going to school fulltime this term, which makes getting to late evening meetings a bit of a problem. Usually when people whine about why things can't be scheduled for their convenience they don't get that much symphathy. This last time Darklady made a truly revolutionary suggestion (at least it got my attention). If you want something, create it for yourself.

With the idea of making my life work for me, I've set up an opportunity to join me at a discussion table for a time that I need to be on campus and have free time. I'm inviting those who are also on or near campus and have the time, to join me for an afternoon of entertaining, enlightening, and emboldening conversation on the topic of ethical, honest, and responsible non-monogamy in all its incarnations.

3:15 p.m. - 5:20 p.m.
Food for Thought Cafe
Basement of the Smith Memorial Center
located on Broadway between Montgomery and Harrison
Portland, Oregon 97207

Enter through the doors right behind the TriMet bus shelter, under the marque doorway. Go through the ticket lobby space. Take the elevator in the hallway which runs parallet to the ground floor cafeteria (not the one near the Info counter). Go to B for basement, the cafe is a right out of the elevators, on the left side of the hallway.

I'll try to reserve the larger round table in the far corner. I will try to bring some small poly symbol to identify the group if I remember, usually a book, otherwise you'll need to use your sleuthing powers to recognize me from my profile photo.

Poly experienced, poly newbie or just poly-curious are all welcome to join in the discussion. Food is vegetarian/vegan for those who come with empty tummies. They do a pretty spectacular job of keeping me fed during the term. Stumptown coffee is only a buck!

Past conversational topics
Jan 10 - Different ways of doing and labeling our relationships, advantages to dating those who have experience negotiating boundaries
Jan 17 - CANCELLED: SNOW DAY
Jan 24 - NRE, expectations in relationships, co-housing and polyamory, "Getting Real" game cards

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Last Saturday Coffee Chat of 2007

Sweet_Bee_1948 — Thu, 27 Dec 2007 02:17:49 GMT

A recurring event hosted by the Portland/Gresham Polyamory Meetup Group!

Saturday, December 29, 10:00 AM - Noon

Where: Acme Coffee & Gifts
1400 Washington Street
Oregon City , OR 97045
503.657.4400

Event Description: New members and old, those who only have Saturdays
free or want more opportunities to meet and greet, this is your
eighth weekend meeting. We've been getting great turn outs since
October, so we've scheduled one more. If you keep showing up, we'll
keep hosting.

Since there is no Monday Chill Out scheduled until January 7, 2008,
an open invitation is being posted to all you chill afficionados/addicts.
If you're poly, poly-curious, poly-friendly or just plain friendly,
hop a bus, grab a ride, join us at this biweekly Coffee Chat.

You'll have a chance to get to know one another as well as discuss
your burning questions, share your recent victories, and offer ideas
for more social opportunities.

Acme has abundant seating, yummy treats and good coffee. You can even
buy silly gifts for loved ones. Come and join us for a spell or stay
the whole two hours.

Located on the corner of 14th and Washington, with both parking lot
and street parking. Walking distance from the Oregon City Transit
Center.

**Sorry this site is not certified as child friendly. Lots of
distracting toys, both naughty and nice on display, would require you
to keep a tight rein on your young ones. Spacious location for adult
conversations however.

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Celebrate Domestic Partnerships in Oregon!

beki — Sun, 23 Dec 2007 23:35:32 GMT

I wanted to let all you poly folk know that the Domestic Partnership Law is set to be implemented beginning January 2nd.

Anyone who would like to participate by supporting those who wish to register their partnership status is invited to help out as announced by BRO (Basic Rights Oregon):

We'll be on site at the Multnomah County Building helping Oregon families gain the recognition they deserve - and we need your help! Join us on January 2nd, 3rd and 4th in Multnomah County to help families register as domestic partners! As the state's population center, we'll need all the help we can get in Multnomah County.
Here are all the details:
Help Oregon families at the Multnomah County Building
Date: January 2nd, 3rd and 4th, 2008
Times: 7:30 am - 12:30 pm, 12:00 - 5:30 pm
Location: 501 SE Hawthorne (Portland)
Contact: Aubrey at Aubrey@basicrights.org or at 503-222-6151 x109

One thing that is pending is an 11th hour effort by activists against equal rights as announced by BRO:

"Basic Rights Oregon has learned that out of state attorneys are currently working with anti-equality activist David Crowe to sue Oregon's Secretary of State over their failed petition drive. These organizations - led by the "Alliance Defense Fund" - have filed a motion seeking to block the implementation of Oregon's domestic partnership law on January 1, 2008."

http://www.concernedoregonians.com/pdfs/lemonscomplaint.pdf

This will be brought before the courts on December 28th.

It is my hope that the courts will rule in favor of the law which has already been passed and will support the registration of domestic partnerships. Either way, we will be at the courthouse on January 2nd either to celebrate equality or to protest discrimination.

Please "Come Out" to support Equal Rights!

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Hello

chakkraa — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 15:45:52 GMT

Im not to this group but no new to my polyness. i am am Chakkraa, thats not my real name but hey u cant be too careful, and i am 28 yrs old. i have been poly since i was 16. i live in the se portland area and im single and looking. i am in a poly relationship but i dont have a primary in my mind who really needs one cause sometimes it causes trouble. i just wanted to say hi and im glad i joined the group

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Saturday Coffee Chat (No Monday Chill Out on the 17th)

Sweet_Bee_1948 — Tue, 04 Dec 2007 09:11:18 GMT

Announcing an ongoing event hosted by the Portland/Gresham Polyamory Meetup Group!

What: Saturday Coffee Chat

When: Saturday, December 15, 10:00 AM - NOON

Where: Acme Coffee & Gift
1400 Washington Street
Oregon City , OR 97045
503.657.4400

Event Description:
New members and old, local poly groups in the metro area, those who only have Saturdays free or want more opportunities to meet and greet, this is our fifth weekend meeting. We got a great turn out on the 17th, a cosy gathering on the 1st, so we've scheduled another. If you keep showing up, we'll keep hosting.

An open invitation is being posted here for all you who love to gather and gab. If you're poly, poly-curious, poly-friendly or just plain friendly, hop a bus, grab a ride, join us at the biweekly Coffee Chat.

You'll have a chance to get to know like minded people as well as discuss your burning questions, share your recent victories, and offer ideas for more social opportunities.

Acme has abundant seating, yummy treats and good coffee. You can even buy silly gifts for loved ones. Come and join us for a spell or stay the whole two hours.

Located on the corner of 14th and Washington, with both parking lot and street parking. Walking distance from the Oregon City Transit Center.

**Sorry this site is not certified as child friendly. Lots of distracting toys, both naughty and nice on display, would require you to keep a tight rein on your young ones. Spacious location for adult conversations however.

You can just show up (look for the woman resembling the photo - 'grey is the new blond' ) or you can opt to RSVP by joining Portland/Gresham Polyamory Meetup here http://polyamory.meetup.com/334. More events posted there, intermittent discussions as well. If you have questions, email me for more info.

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Kind of Like Unofficial Polygamy

Enrika — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 07:00:41 GMT

I found this annoying:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/dear_margo/20071101/en_dm/margo_howard20071101;_ylt=A0WTUcSBJSpH2lgAsg7AGL8C

There were several things to be annoyed about, but for me, this was the most annoying part:

"I am not sure why you felt the need to breeze it around that you and your husband have "wonderful girlfriends.""

She didn't "breeze it around," she told her "well-intentioned friends and family."

Apparently, this woman is of the opinion that polyamorous folks should just live in secret shame, not even telling their family and close friends of their close and loving multiple relationships. I wonder if she has the same attitude about gays and lesbians.

"I am not sure why you felt the need to tell your friends and family that you're gay."

I don't understand why anyone would ask Ann Landers' daughter for advice on alternative sexuality anyway. That's like asking Martha Stewart for advice on making homemade butt plugs.

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CineKink tonight?

Sweet_Bee_1948 — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 19:53:34 GMT

Sadly, only about a dozen people were at last night's opening of the CineKink Film Festival at the Clinton Street Theater. The feature films were both documentaries, plus some amusing shorts. and an opening trailer called "Sissies Gone Wild" that was a real hoot. Both "Vice and Consent" and "Webcam Girls" were well done and thoughtful presentations of their subject matter. The first one featured Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, authors of the Ethical Slut, as well as other kinky folks. The second one featured two very different "performance artists" of the internet, both totally fascinating personalities.

Wish you had been there ;-(

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Siren Nation This Weekend!!!

beki — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 20:19:58 GMT

Hey, just wanted to let all you gals and guys know that this weekend is the Siren Nation Women's Music and Art Festival. Folks of all genders are welcome to come and enjoy the fun.

Tonight the Kick-Off Party is happening at Holocene where you will be dancin' to some great music and you can obtain weekend passes to all of the events! I'll be working the door there so come on down and say hello!!!

Friday and Saturday nights there will be lots of live bands performing at the Wonder Ballrom

Saturday is the Film Festival at Clinton Street Theater

Sunday there will be workshops on gender issues at Kennedy School.

http://www.sirennation.org/home.html

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Hi! I am new!

Marina — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 03:53:53 GMT

Just want to say hello, see where it goes. I finally got around to making a profile, even downloaded a picture. I am so proud of myself.

So, say hi to me, I am good people,

Marina

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New to the area

Pete & Deborah — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 23:13:39 GMT

Hi all-- My primary partner (Deborah) and I have just moved to Eugene, from Maryland. We're both active and experienced poly, so we're looking for local poly groups and friends. It appears from Loving More's links that this Portland group may be the closest to us -- but are any of you folks down around Eugene/Springfield, and/or do you know of any groups in this area? Portland is close enough that we could get up there for occasional events -- but naturally we'd also like to find friends closer to home as well. --Pete Benson (& Deborah Carney-MacFarlane)

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Poly Monday chill out

Darkwingedfae — Sun, 12 Aug 2007 19:32:23 GMT

Hey why don't you come down and meet some new poly freinds!...
Sit chat have some coffee and good conversation about everything under the sun and moon...

This week...

Where: Chance of Rain Cafe
on SE 32nd, just south of Hawthorne (behind Rock Soft Futon)

When: Monday, Aug. 13th 6:00 - 9:00 pm

Why: Because you're poly, poly curious, poly friendly or just plain
friendly.

Hope to see you there!

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Poly picnic, Sunday, 9/16

herekitty — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 15:33:05 GMT

Passing along from elsewhere ...

(Also there's info on the PolaymoryPDX list she mentions here http://groups.yahoo.com/group/polyamorypdx/ )

Michelle wrote:

This is a notice for a Poly Picnic that I posted in the Polyamorypdx
group. I thought that some of the people in this group might not be
members of the Polyamorypdx group and I/we'd love to have a lot of
people show up!!
(For those that went last year, we plan to have the picnic in the
same place.)

Poly Picnic and group birthday celebration

Let's celebrate the birthday of the polyamoryPDX group with a potluck
picnic at Laurelhurst Park on Sunday, September 16th!!

We can meet at the picnic table/benches West of the pond and North of
Oak Street at 1pm.
(Anyone wanting to look it up via the net the address is 3601 SE Oak,
Portland, OR)

Please bring food to share and bring your own drinks…any extra
napkins, plates, plastic ware, etc would also be welcome…just in case
they're needed.

We had a picnic in the same area last year and there were about 30
people who showed up over the course of a couple hours. Everyone had
a good time and it was definitely a family friendly event.

I will have some balloons to mark the area.
If you have folding chairs or blankets to sit on it might be a good
idea to bring them since people tend to out number available seats.
Everyone-no matter what acronym you may consider yourself to be-is
welcome!!

Hope to see many people there!

Hugs,
Michelle n Mike

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Labor Day weekend?

Amy — Wed, 01 Aug 2007 19:34:27 GMT

Hi all,
My bf (Avacha on here) and I will be in Portland visiting for Labor Day weekend. We're considering Portland as a long-term home and would like to meet poly people in the area. Does anyone know of any events happening that weekend? Thanks! :-)
Amy

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Queer poly group

herekitty — Fri, 22 Jun 2007 15:18:02 GMT

Bit of a long shot. I recently stumbled over the info that there's a queer poly discussion group that meets at In Other Words once a month, but I haven't been able to find out if the info is still good, or who to contact. Anyone here been to that group, by chance?

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A Modern Polyamorist

katemac — Mon, 27 Aug 2007 03:42:19 GMT

with apologies to Bill and Artie, who don't deserve this sort of thing:

++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

I am the very model of a modern polyamorist
I've information philosophic, sophomoric and solipsist.
I know the types of families, I quote the types historical
From polygamy to polyfi, in order categorical.
I'm very well acquainted, too, with matters biological,
I comprehend the reasons for safe sex, it's only logical.
About jealousy and envy, I'm teeming with a lot o' news,
With many cheerful facts on how to do things with more than twos.

I'm very good at listening and confidential communiques
Discretion is my middle name, in several or a lot of ways.
In short, in matters philosophic; sophomoric or solipsist,
I am the very model of a modern polyamorist.

++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

I thought I remembered something like this floating around lists from some time back, but could not find it. So I sat down with a rhyming dictionary and cobbled this together. It's rough and unfinished, so if anyone has suggestions about how to improve this, or finish it (the original is over twice as long), I'd be happy to take them into consideration. Next week, it's Dr. Seuss!

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Looking for Couples Therapist

kfj — Sun, 19 Aug 2007 16:54:41 GMT

My wife and I are having trouble finding a poly-friendly couples therapist in Portland. I'd very much appreciate any recommendations. Our troubles do not center on poly issues, so we won't be discussing polyamory exclusively, or even necessarily much at all. But we do certainly need a therapist who can deal with the concept and not dismiss it out of hand as an automatic marriage buster. It's almost like we need a poly-friendly therapist so that the therapist herself doesn't focus on it so much!

Anyhow, any recommendations appreciated. We'll travel to outlying areas if need be, but we live in SE Portland.

Thanks!

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Portland Poly Pancakes

katemac — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 22:27:34 GMT

Here's the plan:

Sunday, July 8th

Original Hotcake House
1002 SE Powell Blvd.

9:30am until whenever we stagger out of there.

They are air conditioned, if it's too hot to breathe.

I've had this posted on Polyamory NW for awhile, just figured I'd make sure I got to most everyone local. Feel free to cross post to other places...

Kate

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Mom & 6-yr-old daughter looking for shared housing->Beaverton

yoovee — Thu, 26 Jul 2007 02:55:57 GMT

Hello,

I have a steady day job, we just need a cheaper place, looking for something around $400-500ish total with utilities. We're very friendly! We play games, go biking, farmer's market, library, eat pretty healthy, and are just all around nice folks.

A shared house would be best, I think sharing an apt would be cramped, but you never know... We'd like to be in Beaverton or very nearby; the closer to the Beaverton Library/Farmers Market, the better.

Thank you!

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Been lurking, now ready to introduce myself

Donna — Mon, 16 Jul 2007 14:49:27 GMT

Hello all! I have been in the group about a month now and feel like an intro is in order. I am new to the area, been here almost two months. I relocated due to a job. I am 45, bi and single and would love to meet some people in the poly community. I have been to a cpl get togethers and met some real cool folks. I live in Hillsboro with a housemate and my 10 year old dog. I work weekends so it makes it hard to attend the poly pancakes event or anything else going on on the weekends.
I am very new to poly having just two relationships w couples, both not a live-in situation and both included relatively long distances...2 hrs. Both good situations except for the distance. Anyway, hoping to meet some new folks! Donna

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Apartment space available. Poly encouraged.

bipoly_misunderstood — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 23:35:51 GMT

I have a 1.5 bedroom apartment, that is part of a larger house for rent. It has a private entry, off-street parking, large living room with fireplace and a large fenced yard. The unit is located in vancouver, near I-5 and St. Johns Blvd. It should be available shortly after the end of the month. The rent is 595.00 per month, with deposits based on rental history.

Message me, and I'll be happy to answer any questions personally.

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just my imagination

katemac — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 22:31:48 GMT

The main bit of art, Lev's PPP, when viewed as a thumbnail, the clouds looks sort of like a woman's abdomen, naval and all. Blown up, not so much.

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Reconciling me lays hand over heart...

Christopher — Wed, 04 Apr 2007 19:02:35 GMT

...with me *gestures to the outer me that people see*. I have set out on a journey to become who I feel I am. I was raised in a very strict home and was told by my parents who I am and it has taken a long time-- too long-- for me to start seperating myself from this. It is hard for me, but I am slowly beginning to learn how to open up to people--sometimes people who could potentially reject me. Whether it be telling people that I am bi, explaining poly, or just wearing eyeliner in public are all biiiig issues for me. I'm sure that there are others here who relate. What kind of experience do you have that could help me or others--in relation to poly, of course, since this is a poly forum?

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Whose Going to the Red Dress Party?

beki — Tue, 03 Apr 2007 16:17:53 GMT

Okay, I've got my ticket for the Annual Red Dress Party Benefit. It's going to be on April 14th. Maybe we could make a poly-group event out of it!

About the event:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rF1-0pg6enc

Last year's Event:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E3J6S1kaIy4&mode=related&search=

The official website:
http://www.reddresspdx.com/

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Monday Chill Out - April 2

karenhery — Sun, 01 Apr 2007 22:04:29 GMT

Here Kitty has skipped town for the weekend. She usually forwards on my posts. Finally got techy enough to do it myself:

We had a great turn out last month for our first Chill Out in Beaverton. Hope lots of you can make it this month too. One of our Chill Out regulars, Todd, has very kindly put together bus and Max directions to make it easy for all of us to get out to the 'burbs if you are not from anywhere near Beaverton. He's used 5th and Jefferson as the starting point and you can adjust from there. Thanks Todd!

1st Monday of the month - Beaverton Chill:

Where: Java Nation coffee shop, 4130 SW 117th
across the street from the shopping center with the Fred Meyer just off
Canyon Road/8

When:
6:30 p.m. to 9ish

Why: Because you're poly, poly curious, poly friendly or just plain
friendly.

What: a place to hang out, chill out, have a bite, start a conversation or
join one already in progress.

Bus #58 gets you very close to Java Nation:
From SW 5th Ave & SW Jefferson St (Stop ID 12791)
Board 58 Canyon Road to Beaverton TC
Get off at SW Canyon & Red Robin
Walk 0.1 mile northeast to 4130 SW 117th Ave
Travel time: 24 minutes (including 3 minutes walking)

or

MAX (or ANY bus that gets you to Beaverton Transit Center) gets you
less than a half-mile walk away:
Walk 0.29 mile north from SW 5th Ave & SW Jefferson St to Mall/SW 5th
Ave MAX Station (Stop ID 8382)
Board MAX Red Line to City Center & Beaverton TC
Get off at Beaverton TC MAX Station
Walk 0.4 mile southeast to 4130 SW 117th Ave (quickest route is to
take the pedestrian bridge over the creek on the east end of the
transit mall and cut through the shopping malls to get to Java nation)
Travel time: 45 minutes (including 23 minutes walking)

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Sure is quiet in here.

bipoly_misunderstood — Thu, 15 Mar 2007 19:51:35 GMT

could be good, could be bad.

Any new business? Any issues to be discussed?

<crickets chirping>

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Ages

Aerdrigh: Pronouced "Aery" — Sat, 10 Mar 2007 05:05:29 GMT

Just wondering... I got my whitened-since-my-20's hair colored today, a vanity fer sure... yet I reflect on how where'bouts despaired/physically attracted to someone includes the need to love and be loved - also, how it can be a soul/spiritual or emotional need as well as a physical need, and issues @ too aged or too young might be? Youth is so sure and invincible... I'm into my fifties and really don't wander prowling amidst the nubile, under thirty crowd. Well, maybe a little... as I do love to dance, beseemed attractive, and really adjoin/relate to my original "glory-years," yet also discriminate @ different stages of life... 'cause I subtly recognize permutations of real beauty. You will all deal with this positive/negative knot... so do give me some leeway here... Practicalities are important, and so is what individually moves us and/or squicks. I discovered a wonderful LBG hairstylist today in my neighborhood (shameless plug for 'Open and Out' on King Rd. in Milwaukie) who said that I, have this Sean Connery sound/look thing going for me, which aint too bad to hear... but my cat doesn't care about that sort of stuff... all that can hide how appearances deceive, how collective presentations of youth underlies characterizations that belie what is always in tension and present, but also how I really appreciate those who are of an age... Youth nourishes my phantasies... yet need so much nourishment... The tone of my feelings is that the young also sees their lives often to one-sidedly, even self-destructively, but also how many "of an age" haven't freed themselves from false lives...

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Raven Kaldera's "Pagan Polyamory" - has anyone else read it?

Sweet_Bee_1948 — Wed, 21 Feb 2007 20:24:36 GMT

I finished this book over the weekend and am so thoroughly impressed with it. I'm not pagan (not unless one of those online quizes counts, where I rate highest on NeoPagan among other belief systems). I'd love to hear from those who are pagan and polyamorous, especially if you've read this book. There's real practical advice in here, along with the pagan rituals. Most of it would apply to anyone, no belief system synchronicity required.

I got my brand-spanking-new copy for $1.98 on eBay and it far exceeded my expectation. The cover price is $16.95 so if you hurry, there may still be copies. I think Amazon.com also has the same book seller, as well as used copies. Don't know if the library system carries it, they should.

Included in the Appendix was the orginal essay in which Morning Glory Zell-Ravenheart first coined the term polyamory. "A Bouquet of Lovers: Strategies for Responsible Open Relationships" Written in 1990, it's just as if she wrote it yesterday. Highly recommended reading, especially if you got to polyamory through another form of non-monogamy.

I'll have my copy at the Wednesday "Open Conversations about Open Relationships" discussion table. For a preview look, feel free to stop by this afternoon, any time between 3 and 5:30 pm.

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Howzit!

Aerdrigh: Pronouced "Aery" — Thu, 08 Mar 2007 23:27:15 GMT

Jerome here, new to this social network, but lurked a bit. Just saying hello, and do peruse my profile when and if... I'll be contributing ahead as seems the spirit moves, Do appreciate how Poly love is lived and expressed herebout's. I live in Milwaukie, fairly new to area after living here many long strange trips ago... Used to be a childbirth educator/labor coach for pregnant teens in N.W. Portland once upon a time in a universe far, far away. Been a psych counselor and a whole mishmash of stuff I really cant do justice to on my profile, and these days do crafts/art and am involved in Depth Psychology community. Poly single these days... not going to overtly advertise here, but hope you get to know me and I've really enjoyed wandering through many posts and profiles to sorta come up to speed here.

Locally, wrote a little blurby thing on Portland/Gresham Poly meet-up recently that may/may not give some flavor @ me, I'm "Aery" there, Hi Kat! Hungry for intersocial interaction, friends, shared activities... just open... I'm making a new foray into Poly again after @ a 5 year hiatus for a too complicated story/journey, but this "tribe" is home for me... Some might remember me from Poly.org contributions over the years...

Really, just look foreward to mixing and perhaps connecting all round. I've an open door.

Fortune,
Jerome

Today is International Women's Day. It is a celebration of the political, economic and social achievements of women around the world. This day is used to express love and gratitude to the women around them. It is similar to St Valentine's Day but with a deep theme of highlighting the struggles of women worldwide. In connecting to the vital soul of this, for so many elements @ the deep feminine element, I send my reflective personal blessings to each unique being, including their relationships... hugs if you need them... and many real appreciations/recognitions...

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Sufi Safari

~ Daria ~ — Sun, 04 Mar 2007 03:50:51 GMT

Come on out for some fun at Sufi Safari!

SUFI SAFARI
an eclectic evening of rocking absurdity

Saturday, March 10, 2007
Outlaws (722 E. Burnside)--the old Bossanova Ballroom!
$10 at the door
9pm – 3am

Wild kingdom, whirling dervish, or jungle attire encouraged!

featuring:

STYNX : A one-night-only all-star band plays The Who, Zeppelin, Supertramp, Radiohead, and more, but no Styx! Featuring members of The Eels, Solovox, MarchFourth, Titans of Oblivion, Trash Can Joe, and the Nowhere Band!

TELEPHONE: Recently signed by Cobra Music. Eric Hedfords’s new-wave synth-rock supergroup. First appearance in over a year, with all-new lineup and material! Catch them before they showcase at SXSW.

SOLOVOX: Portland's premier one-man electronic band debuts all new dance material designed to shake your rump!

CIRCUS BEBOP: Jazzy acrobatic performance hipsters from Montreal, featuring former members of Cirque du Soleil. First and only Portland appearance!

EMILY POST All-woman vocal powerhouse featuring members of Dahoo Chorus and LiveWire!

ABOUT STYNX, WI-FLI, AND THE NATURE OF “SUFI SAFARI”:
Known primarily as the bassist & bandleader for MarchFourth, John Averill was also the co-creator & musical mastermind behind Kaosmosis from 2003-2006. Since 2000, his work in the Portland underground event scene as both a singer and producer, in some circles, is legendary (Dahoo Chorus, Roswell Sisters, Manaconda, Nowhere Band, Yeti Snowball, Chow Yun Fat Tuesday, Chopper Won, Flying Dream, Woonami Village... to name just a few entities).

Now, in 2007, Averill returns with Wi-Fli Events to create a show called SUFI SAFARI, and plans on “reclaiming” the space now called "Outlaws" (formerly Bossanova) for one night of fun in the wild kingdom of music and performance. One of John’s trademarks, aside from singing difficult lead vocals (Queen, Jeff Buckley, Beatles, etc) is creating fictitious “one-off” bands. On March 10, his latest creation, called STYNX, will appear for one night, featuring Chet Lyster (Eels, Fernando) on guitar, Carl Tietze (Solovox) on keyboards, and the rock-solid rhythm section of drummer Ryan Moore (Titans of Oblivion) and bassist Arthur Parker (TJoe, Rachel Taylor Brown).

‘BUT DON’T WORRY, STYNX will NOT be playing ANYTHING by the band Styx” Averill explains. “The name was too silly to resist, but we just couldn’t bring ourselves to play anything by Styx, not because it was too obvious, but because we couldn’t find a song of theirs that didn’t suck.” Instead, STYNX will focus on rarely-performed covers of Zeppelin, Supertramp, Radiohead, and other surprises.

MORE ABOUT WI-FLI EVENTS: Wi-Fli could mean "Wonderful Inspiration - Freedom Loves Imagination," but what it really means is "When I Feel Like It," or perhaps "Wear Insanely Fun Lingerie Indefinitely." Wi-Fli will only produce a couple of events a year. We are not a company. We do not have a website. We will not bother you with random emails announcing eventual or hypothetical happenings. We will only contact you when the time is right and worthy of your attention. If you would like to be removed or added to our mailing list, please contact wifli.events@gmail.com. Wi-Fli? Wi not?

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Mt. St. Helens in July?

Jon — Thu, 08 Mar 2007 04:56:40 GMT

Ok, it’s time to take up the challenge and get some things going for this group for the coming summer. I would like to propose a hike up to the rim of Mt. St. Helens this coming July.

To do this we (the group) needs to start planning day hikes each month to get in shape for a 7-12 hour hike. I also thought we could camp near St. Helens so we could get an early start. So if anyone who was not interested in the hike is still interested in joining in, they could just hang out at camp while the hikers are on the trail.

We need to plan this real soon since we will need a hiking permit to go up to the rim. There are only 100 permits issued each day with the maximum of 12 per group (this doesn’t mean we can’t get 2 permits if we have a larger group). The cost is $15 per permit (plus $7 online handling fee) for a total of $22. So the sooner we get this going the sooner we can make sure that we have a permit(s) for the hike.

So, if you’re really interested in going on the Mt. St. Helens hike or any of the day hikes or even the campout, come to the March 12 coffee munchie at Sound Grounds and we can discuss it and see if there is enough interest in doing the hike and start planning for all the fun.

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Poly article;

Min — Thu, 22 Feb 2007 18:01:25 GMT

http://www.sptimes.com/2007/02/18/Floridian/A_love_triangle_Try_a.shtml

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we bit frustrated

bipoly_misunderstood — Wed, 13 Dec 2006 22:56:40 GMT

Well, another couple of weeks blow on by. My wife suggested that she wanted to have an open marriage. I've posted this before, but I just wanted to add a few things.

She had someone specific in mind. I understand that. I agreed to let her have fun outside the marriage, this took quite a bit of effort from me. I'm usually very attatched to one person. She told me that she wanted me to date someone else as well. This is a bit of an odd request. I haven't so much as looked at another person in eight years. I'm very much out of practice, when it comes to dating. So, I asked out a wonderful young woman that I'd been friends with for a long time. We went on a couple of dates, and I felt wonderful with her. She made me feel important. She made me feel romantic.

but alas, she decided to reconcile with a previous person, placing me back on a good friend basis. I'll always have feelings for her.

In the meantime, the guy that my wife wanted dissappeared. His interest seemed to dry up. My wife turned to the internet, and wow, what a response she received. She was going out on dates four or more times a week. This left me home with a toddler most nights alone. She comes home, and just talks about her dates, her experiences and such, making me feel even more alone.

So here's my problem. I don't know where to meet people, especially people that understand polyamorous relationships. I tried placing an advertisment on our local Craigslist, and that netted one response in seven days.

I'm tired of being married and lonely

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Seeking a bit of advice

Min — Thu, 01 Feb 2007 15:48:11 GMT

I've been poly for quite a long time. I started off horribly, but learned over time what poly actually means(to me) and have incorporated it into my life. 10 years later I find the woman of my dreams and commit my life to her. She is of the monogomous sort, and feels awkward talking about making our relationship poly. Now, I don't NEED a third in our life. I only want her to be comfortable with the fact that I can care about her, love her, and still share my heart with another in a way that doesn't diminish the relationship with either. Have any of you stumbled into this situation before, and how did you solve it?

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Anyone else checking del.icio.us/tag/polyamory?

Sweet_Bee_1948 — Fri, 26 Jan 2007 18:36:42 GMT

I just found this great article on the del.icio.us site and wondering if anyone else was finding it a useful source of material on poly?

http://www.tikkun.org/magazine/tik0701/frontpage/monogamy

I'll cross-post it on the thread on Open Conversations.. as a possible discussion topic for next week's meeting. Some of us are voracious readers, others not so. I just want to explore the roots of jealousy without hearing all the old trite explanations, many of which arose with the Myth of Monogamy. If you can't make it to PSU next Wednesday, and you got something out of the article, or have a unique perspective on jealousy, please post here. We'll discuss your thoughts without you...LOL

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Poly at PSU - Come share 'elegant discourse' with me.

Sweet_Bee_1948 — Sun, 07 Jan 2007 04:26:38 GMT

In the spirit of creating something that works for me, I'm announcing a Wednesday afternoon PSU poly discussion table. I have a meeting at noon that requires me to be on campus before my evening class. i would love to see any and all peoples, associated with PSU or not, join me for coffee or tea at the Food for Thought Cafe in the basement of the Smith Memorial Center on Broadway and Harrison.

Until I know what works for people, I'll arrange to be there from 4-6 pm beginning this Wednesday. I'm looking for good conversation on any aspect of polyamory, both practical and abstract. I'm in a five year (almost) FMF "V" relationship but have been philosophically poly since 1969. I've also been in three different MFM "V"s in the past so have seen the other side of the coin as well. I'm inordinately fond of probing questions and exceptionally willing to answer same (within legitimate bounds, of course).

Same rules apply as the Monday coffee events: Poly experienced, poly newbie or poly-curious are welcome to join me. Food is vegetarian/vegan for those who come with empty tummies. They do a pretty spectacular job of keeping me fed during the term.

Barbara

Use the Tribe photo to find me, I'll holding down a table or parked on one of their comfy couches. I'm on campus to attend class so won't be bringing a parrot with me (sorry for this, all you fetish lovers).

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Empathy for Incompatability

Angel — Sat, 09 Dec 2006 20:18:03 GMT

I've just learned that a great woman I've been dating for about
6 weeks has decided that in fact her monogamous leanings
mean it is not right for her to continue to date me, despite
our mutual affection, attraction, chemistry & sweet energy.

I know,know know that I should try harder to date women that are
already on board with non-monogamy, but right now I just want to
express my disappointment, and a bit of fear that a jillion great
gals out there won't want to relate intimately with me because I
won't be their one and only....

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Munches?

Sun, 26 Nov 2006 17:29:26 GMT

So are there any poly munches happening these days? If so, where?

If not, would anybody be interested in attending and/or hosting? I don't have a place to host, but always happy to contribute. Plus I'll assist with set-up or clean-up. :-)

I realize that during the holidays may not be the best time for everybody, but maybe in January sometime after things cool down again?

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New Local Poly Tribe

richl — Sat, 25 Nov 2006 01:03:34 GMT

I'm starting a Portland Poly Personals tribe for those who would like to meet new partners and/ or discuss poly meet ups, gatherings, or dating. Come on over.

tribes.tribe.net/pdxpolypersonals

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Hookah Bars

D' bass man — Thu, 16 Nov 2006 06:06:48 GMT

Anyone know where I kind find a local hookah bar??

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Hello all! and an invitation..

Laura Rose — Wed, 01 Nov 2006 21:30:57 GMT

Hi, my name is Laura. I have been polyamorous for a little under a year and have lived in portland four years. I have been looking around pdx-poly for awhile now, but am a bit shy and haven't posted or gone to the poly monday. I would like to meet people but have some social anxiety. Of course I post now that I need a favor!

So I'm a student at Lewis & Clark College and part of the planning committee for the Gender Studies Symposium we do every year. This year the theme is "Our Voices, Ourselves" (you can look at the speakers for this year and past years http://www.lclark.edu/dept/gender/symposia.html). So I have proposed a roundtable discussion on polyamory. I would like to educate the community on polyamory...but not in a strictly informative way, but personal, straight from experience way. Some of these questions I have developed are (always open to suggestions):

Why are you polyamorous/How did you become polyamorous?
Do you think you were “born” polyamorous?
What is your poly-family’s configuration?
How do you view the hierarchy within your relationships?
Do you experience compersion? Can you discuss an example of this?
What is jealousy? How do you deal with jealousy?
How do you feel about monogamy?
Does your legal status as a polyamorist concern you?
Do you think polyamory is the next fight in family law?
Can you share one “poly mistake” you have made with us?
What is the importance of communication within your relationship?
How has polyamory changed you, as a person?

So I would like your suggestions and perhaps find some people interested in being part of this discussion? The symposium is Wednesday, March 7 - Friday, March 9, 2007, I am not sure when the session will be. But based on availability I can ask for a certain time.

Thank you so much!

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Poing!

herekitty — Sat, 21 Oct 2006 19:04:43 GMT

I was delighted to learn the word "poing" this week, which has been used on alt.polyamory for years (I'm told) and which means basically what the more clinical-sounding "compersion" does -- happiness for someone else's happiness. Such a jolly word.

Even better, I got to experience poing for some friends this week, and it made it that much more fun to be able to say: I'm poinging you right this minute. (And yeah, you know who you are. Heehee!)

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Greetings to all and to all Agape tonight!

ShenJingQiDo — Tue, 26 Sep 2006 23:56:24 GMT

Greetings, salutations, merry meet, and how do ya do, respectfully.
I am a recent transplant to the Oregon area (Ashland), from Montana. Long time Polyamourist, but only recently found a word for it.
I have a wonderful truly poly relationship, which incorporates spirituality, and growth to our loving life and adventures.
I am hoping for conversations, with like minded folks, a poly support group, if you will, so please do not hesistate to mssge me anytime. More than happy to answer questions, and share dialogue.
Oh, and BTW check out Cunningminx's Polyweekly podcast....it's like a radio for polys!
Namaste,
ShenJingQiDo

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Feeling lost... are there any 20-somethings out there?

Tue, 26 Sep 2006 02:36:51 GMT

Hi. So, I've been scouring the 'net and libraries to find anything I can to read on polyamory and assorted other "alternative lifestyles." I wish finding like-minded people to talk about it with was as easy.
I'm 20 years old and very happily married. Would you recommend that I go to the Chance of Rain Cafe next Monday? Are there other places that I might fit in? Any guidance would be appreciated.

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Poly-friendly counselors

Darkwingedfae — Thu, 10 Aug 2006 07:06:07 GMT

I decided to pu this up on a new thread so all could see...
This site has poly friendly counselors in many sates including right here in Portland.

http://www.polyamory.org/SF/poly-friendly.html

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Ovum donation

photofreedom — Wed, 16 Aug 2006 23:32:17 GMT

I don't believe I will ever have children of my own, but I would like to become an ovum donor. I know there are responsible families who cannot concieve but would be willing to consider using an ovum donor. Have you been a donor? Do you know someone who has? Is there a facility/clinic in Portland you would recommend? Please help me build a support community for this topic by spreading the word!

http://tribes.tribe.net/ovumdonors

Thanks~
MJ

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Introductions...

Indigo — Sat, 05 Aug 2006 02:55:26 GMT

Howdy, all:

So, this is my introduction to the group. My birth name is Matthew, but my chosen name is Indigo. I'm a 32-year old divorced father of one. My ex and I had an open, somewhat poly relationship for the better part of 11 years. After having my first taste of what an open relationship can be like, I know (in the way that you might know your favorite color, or know how to eat, or breathe) that polyamorous is what I am. Our divorce was finalized in December, and I have been feeling lately that I'm ready to start dating again -- whee! I just discovered this tribe (I'm fairly new to tribes as well), and so, here I am! I'm not saying I'm here to find potential partners, just to meet like-minded people, and to be a bit social. Especially since it looks like y'all get together not two blocks from my house at least once a week!

In my spare time, I draw comics and am working on a set of tarot cards. You can see samples of both at my blog, www.lunarbistro.com. I also organize the annual Stumptown Comics Fest, and my most recent impossible crush is the curly-haired, doe-eyed bombshell who works at the Reynolds Optical on hawthorne. Yow!

So, yeah. That's me! Howdy!

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Hi all; New to this tribe...

Darkwingedfae — Fri, 04 Aug 2006 07:14:24 GMT

Hi there, I have been living a wonderfull poly relationship with my husband for a while now. Glad I could find some space to talk and meet people of the same lifestyle. As usual am am at a loss for words at the moment, but give me time.

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munches on weekends?

katemac — Tue, 04 Jul 2006 09:08:39 GMT

Do they happen anymore?

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Need a new word I think

Doug — Thu, 29 Jun 2006 05:41:15 GMT

OK so we all have walked through Home Depot and found sex toys. We call them pervertables. Clamps, eye bolts, chain, dowel rods, nylon strapping materials. Pervertables. Something to convert from vanilla usage to sexual usage.

Now what if walking through a sex shop you find a devise just right for your shop project of making a vibrating machine to get the air out of cake batter for use in the kitchen. What do you call it? Reversing technology?

Doug

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Do you ride?

Fri, 17 Mar 2006 20:58:42 GMT

Hello all you great people!

I'm new to this tribe, though not to the poly lifestyle. I'm interested in meeting other poly folks that ride motorcycles or are interested in getting into riding them. I don't care what you ride or your riding style, experience levels, etc. Martian or Venutian, it matters not.

If you're interested you can either message me direct or check out my tribe, Moto Ducks, at:
http://tribes.tribe.net/motoducks

Have a wonderful weekend!
Rev

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Riddle me this...

Tue, 27 Jun 2006 23:50:37 GMT

Ok, I posted this in Livejournal, but I think it's relevant here too...

Why is it that when you put up an ad (the internet, a newspaper, the bathroom stall, etc...) looking for a secondary or other significant partner, and you specify that, although you are indeed bisexual, you are looking for a woman, the men still come out of the woodwork?

It seems so....counterproductive.

I mean, does it ever work?

I'm just kinda curious here, because I, personally, would not respond to ad that said the poster only wanted men.

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poly music TONIGHT (Thursday, 6/22)

Gayle — Fri, 23 Jun 2006 01:24:15 GMT

Hey! Anybody going to Duff's tonight to hear Rich and The Pleasure Seekers? 9 pm, be there or be square! Duff's Garage, SE 7th & Market. I'll be there as long as I can tolerate the smoke.

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Looking for a Poly/Pagan/Bi Friendly psychiatrist... (that hopefully takes my insurance)

Kittnslave — Wed, 17 May 2006 23:47:53 GMT

I am trying to get out of a personal depression and I am looking for help that won't tell me that the choices I am most happy about in my life are what are causing my depression. (aka the being poly, pagan and bi)

Any help?

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best of Portland

katemac — Mon, 12 Sep 2005 03:14:02 GMT

Okay, I've talked my sister into coming to visit me. It's been about 8 years since I've seen her. She's flying in from Texas for a weekend, in early October. She's flying Friday afternoon and Monday day. I have two days to catch up with her, introduce her to my younger son and show her what we can of the best parts of Portland area.

She wants to see some of the coast, she wants to do some geocaching. I think the Saturday Market and Powell's would be good, too.

So, what would be on the top of *your* list of Must See Portland?

Kate

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Monthly poly dinners

polydomes — Fri, 11 Feb 2005 21:41:25 GMT

We are bringing back the tradition of monthly dinners.
These used to be scheduled when out of town polys were visiting.

The 27 JAN 2005 7PM at Sivalaya Thai Restaurant worked well. Eight people showed up and about half the group headed off for drinks afterwards.

It looks like SE area works well.

The monthly Lucky Lab Poly Meet up and Last Sunday's Coffee munch were a disaster last month since only two of us showed up.

Where should we meet ?

Thursday at 7PM seemed to work.

We might want to try Casa De Rios a Mexican place on SE Hawthorne with a very cozy bar.

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poly in the Rogue Valley

Ashley — Fri, 20 Jan 2006 05:53:24 GMT

I'm looking to start a "poly group" in the Rogue valley.... anyone out there?
ashley

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An introduction

nutmegalfredo — Thu, 05 Jan 2006 19:02:35 GMT

A friend I've been flirting with in SF for a while spends a lot of time on tribe and recommended posting on the polyamory site <here>. So, I am putting my toes in the water with a short introduction.

I'm in an amazing cafe. I feel like I'm in Paris. the view is that good. Wish I had a camera and could post the view, but I'm in one room, small tables, a couple stuffed chairs, a couch, throught the archway into the bigger room, many tables, diffused sunlight, and furthest away the lunch counter, and behind that colorful sign chalkboard showing the coffee choices and behind that drifting back and forth bakers and cooks who make everything from scratch, light music in the background, child playing with an etchasketch...

and, yeah, I was trying to introduce myself. Gosh, that seems to change from moment to moment these days. I'm in luxurious heaven at the moment, taking some days weeks months from my work as a software tester, playing with the idea of not returning to that type of work, learning about peak states of consciousness, partying a bit, enjoying the season.

just planted bulbs at the cafe - out front, daffodils and tulips, which says a lot about me, I like being part of places, part of this City. I'm leading my n'hood tree planting in February.

And, then, there's doing bikram yoga, slimming down a little, having lots of free time and feeling at 44, sexier and smarter and more interesting than I've ever been. And, out of my last monogamous relationship 7 months ago, and that's feeling well-healed.

and, sexually, I'm a boy. mosty attracted to women, but do feel comfortable with men, as well. Did the Body Electric workshop for men, which included masturbating one another, sacred sexuality - was quite eye-opening. I'm also into breathwork, and really all sorts of ways to get to the other side - ecstatic states (and staying in them...). Spanking seems like a good entry-point as well, surely it's a turn on, both giving and receiving. I picked that up at burning man which is a big part of my life. I've been 6 years and this will be my 7th. I'm a part of a big theme camp which provides postal services on the playa and lately I've noticed that the friends I've made over the years on the playa are starting to be more and more a part of my life off the playa. In fact, I have one hell of a network both locally and globally. And, my community here, which is a bit of a different fish, is very supportive and warm and mmmm, I love them!

And part of me wonders whether I'm ready to share and be shared. As I touch the waters of poly, I can see that they look somewhat clear but get murky quickly, but I'm looking forward to seeing what they look like when I'm in them.

OK, all for now. But feels like a good start.

When I just looked at my LoveTribe.org page I realized I would love to start with a girlfriend. And, perhaps someone who is not attached, so that we can start together and then perhaps branch out. So, I think that's who I'm looking for - Ms. Right.

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Newish to the tribe

Penny — Wed, 11 Jan 2006 06:43:25 GMT

Just wanted to drop a quick hello to all in the group. I've belonged to the tribe for a little while, but have been to bust to post an introduction. I hope to get to know some of you on here and I would like to say that it's nice to have a place where I can talk to other like minded people and not worry about getting flamed, harrassed, etc. So, once again, just thought that I would say "Hi".

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Meet-up Opportunities

Dave-Super_Genius — Tue, 20 Dec 2005 05:54:16 GMT

Since the previous thread is named for a past event, thought I'd steer the conversation over here.

The latest event mentioned as a meet-up opportunity was this from Rick:

Ok...Come to my band's show tonight at Duffs Garage (corner of SE 7th and Market). We play piano driven New Orleansish music and rockabilly. Got a name all you polys should love...The Pleasure Seekers. Show is 12/29 at 9:00ish and the cover is a mere $3.00.

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what does PDX mean?

sinamuscarina — Sat, 07 Jan 2006 20:31:12 GMT

thanks for info, sina

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Polycamp

just4fun6464 — Thu, 05 Jan 2006 18:32:19 GMT

So I just went to the web site and it sounds wonderful, child friendly, etc. Has anyone attended in the past, plan on going this year, have information to share.

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Hi everyone!!

vancouverguyforu — Sun, 01 Jan 2006 10:22:06 GMT

Hi everyone I am a 29/m in Vancouver, Wa. I am married, and polyamorous. i am looking to make some new lady friends. I just stumbled up this website while doing a search for polyamory.. lol Anyhow thanks for letting me join!

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FREE Blues show in Portland this Wednesday - anybody up for it?

Dave-Super_Genius — Mon, 12 Dec 2005 06:03:30 GMT

Howdy, all. Just seein' if there are any Blues-friendly Polys out here. I'm going to a FREE blues show by Hillstomp this Wednesday. Would be happy if any of you could join me so I don't have to sit all by m'self. *sniff* (Of course, that might be *better* for Blues...)

Anybody interested in meeting there, grabbing a beer/mineral water, and listenin' to some music? It even gets over early (8pm) for us old, have-to-get-up-for-work folks. :-)

I heard these guys on XM today, and they really have somethin' goin' on -- deep, deep groove with some refreshingly sharp punky elements. Then I found out they were from Portland, and I had to see if I could catch them live.

Here's the band:
http://www.hillstomp.com/

Here's the venue:
http://mysite.verizon.net/res8u18i/laurelthirstpublichouse/id4.html

Here's the show:
Wednesday December 14th
Laurelthirst Public House, 2958 N.E. Glisan Portland
6-8 pm
FREE

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New to PDX

cfj — Tue, 24 May 2005 04:47:45 GMT

I'm excited about moving here. I know that there are alot of like minded folks up here. Lokking foward to getting "plugged in" to the PDX community.

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"Dear Amy" advice column freaks on poly

Dave-Super_Genius — Tue, 22 Nov 2005 03:08:37 GMT

(Cross-posting to at least one other tribe)

Syndicated advice columnist Amy Dickinson, an up-and-coming "Dear Abby" type, ran this letter today from a fretting mom asking how to handle her married, bi, poly daughter wanting to include a girlfriend in the family's Thanksgiving celebration. "Dear Amy's" response seems so simplistic and stupid, avoiding any possibility of love or companionship or even family, that it really ticked me off.

Anybody else? Or am I overreacting? Is Thanksgiving a Republicans-only deal, only they never sent me the memo?

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Dear Amy: I have always considered myself open to diversity and open to people in general.

I have a good, strong relationship with my daughter. But she has thrown one at me that I am having trouble negotiating.

Two years ago she married a man whom I adore for accepting her and loving her the way she is, and for adopting her two children who were fatherless. The children are both doing much better with him in their lives, and so is she.

Last May, however, she and her husband announced to me that they were both gay. They were planning to remain in the marriage, and each of them would be free to have a significant other on the side.

Her husband already had someone. Not only did they want me to accept this, but to celebrate it.

I told them I could do the first, but not the second.

Now the holidays are arriving. My daughter asked if she could include her new girlfriend at Thanksgiving, because, she said, she's proud of me and wants her girlfriend to know me. She knows that in the past I have always been open to including others at the Thanksgiving table.

I told her I like Amanda just fine (I've met her), but that I didn't feel right including this big, happy extended "family" at the table as if everything were OK, partly because I feel that the whole thing has not played out and that it is endangering her marriage.

Any words of wisdom for me?

- Stymied in Portland, Ore.

Dear Stymied: Your openness and liberal attitude about diversity are beautiful.

Now your daughter is whacking you over the head with it.

Don't let her.

This isn't a gay thing. This is a question of your daughter stepping way over the line.

Let's pretend that your daughter and her husband are both straight and that she wants to bring both her husband and her male lover to Thanksgiving dinner. Would you even consider including this threesome at your Thanksgiving table?

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Next Meeting

WolfMana — Thu, 25 Aug 2005 23:24:54 GMT

When is it?

Or did I miss the post about it?

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Photo

Fri, 22 Jul 2005 08:55:40 GMT

I appologize at once for the trite humor of the photo I've posted, but it just tickles me!

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O.K. So who are you all?, how long have you been poly?Ect. Ect.

=Beorn= — Wed, 25 Aug 2004 00:58:59 GMT

I've been Ploy well most of my life,My parents we're self discribed swingers. although I'd definately clasify them as polyamerous now. they tended to form bonds with the couples they shared encounters with. one particular couple was like my second set of parents for a large part of my life. so I had it ingrained early that it was O.k. to be attracted to more than one partner, even that it was O.K. to Fall in Love with more than one person at a time.
what about you what is your experence? Just trying to get a tread goin here;)

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~WoW~

Fri, 22 Apr 2005 02:46:02 GMT

I just happen to curiously look for such a tribe and voila!

Hey portland poly pals, come out and play!

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